There’s a lot of strong positive signals being put in our faces every day. I even try to flood myself with positive energy all the time since I am always hustling to get things done. As much as we like to think they are healthy and good for us, it can be the most stressful addition to our life. It’s on social networks, on billboards, signs in schools and institutions… everywhere.
“If you dream it, you can do it”
“Shoot for the stars”
You might be trying to figure out what’s wrong with that messaging everywhere all the time. There is a little piece of the puzzle missing that makes these sayings much more valuable than their general statements.
That missing piece is context.
Without understanding context, advice given can be completely misunderstood and a waste of energy. We all want to understand how to become better at what we do. The problem is that without a personal mentor and someone that understands our situation, the context we are in, advice can be poor, no matter how profound it may be.
It’s easy to give advice, but receiving it well is a whole other ball game. Emotion comes into play, relationships are at stake, maybe even finances. There is so much to consider when receiving. When the advisor never understands your situation to a full extent, it can be like shoot a machine gun at a single blueberry. The advisor might hit it, but they would be much better off using a sniper rifle and understanding the target of situation and it’s environment.
If you dream it, you can do it…. The dream needs to be evaluated. It needs to be researched. Shoot for the stars!…. How far are these “stars?” Is that a practical distance to shoot for based on your situation. Is it even probable? Take into consideration what you are capable of and the timeline you are working with.
When a false hope is constantly given to others, they can aim to high and that can lead to more failure than they can handle. It can deter people from trying again. When the hope is more true and achievable, we are more likely to succeed. We still might fail, but the probability of success over failure is much better than through misguided and false hope.
As human beings, we have a physical and mental capacity.
You are not superman. You are not some super genius. You are you. You have great potential, but that takes lots of hard work and patience. You shouldn’t expect yourself to reach a dream in short amounts of time. Want to be a successful professional photographer? That will take years not only to reach, but to maintain. People forget about the maintenance. That can be harder than reaching the top sometimes. Staying there means you have to work even harder.
Having a personal capacity for yourself is a great thing. It can prevent burnout, remind you to invest in your health and most importantly, remind you that your friends and family should always come first before any of your personal goals. You need to embrace your personal capacity. It makes your life much more enjoyable.
What good is a dream if you have no one to live it with? No sense in burning bridges along the way.
So how can we make sure we don’t overload our personal capacity?
- If you feel stressed, stop taking on new projects. Finish the ones you have in progress. Get them off your plate.
- Do you have any projects on your back burner? Commit time to get them done when you have the free time. It means more free time when you are done!
- Is your goal realistic? Make your goals achievable. Has anyone else ever achieved this type of goal? You might be the first to do it, but make sure you understand what you are getting into. Be patient with the project and with yourself. Are you literally capable of achieving this goal?
- Take a break. Don’t start anything new for a while. Regain some energy. Get away from computers, social networks and anything digital. Just breathe for once.
- Make sure your health is in check. A healthy you is a better you. Stress can be caused by health issues, lack of sleep, poor nutrition, etc. Make sure you are taking care of yourself before you are taking care of big projects. Lack of focus can cause projects to take too long and even become flawed. Feel good to do good.
What do you do to prevent mental burnout in your life?