There will always be times in your life when we have no control of the external actions that influence us. People can say or do harmful things to you. Your car can get damaged while being parked on the side of the street. You can get sick during an extremely busy week at work. As much as you want to prevent losing control of what happens to you, it’s mission impossible.
Those situations tend to tear you apart. They wear down on you. It can make you feel like you’ve lost the war. It’s easy to seek rest and just give up and weep. The one idea that both you and I forget is that wars are made of smaller parts and events. I want to break down the concept of war we call “life” and give you hope. This specific perception has given me hope.
There are battles and there is combat.
When a struggle involves other people than yourself, it’s a battle. Personal combat is involved, but you are not alone because of others are fighting the same battle as you. Battles happen between families, friends, coworkers and sometimes people you’ve never even met before. No matter what the scenario is, you are fighting a good fight with others. You want to be victorious together. When you hear that your flight is delayed for 8 hours for you and your family, that is a battle. A battle, isn’t always a negative experience. Sometimes it’s a good one. Being on a sports team and losing together is a battle, but you learn from it. The end of the game feels negative, but you can now analyze your mistakes together. Together you can win. Not alone.
Combat is a conflict of the head and the heart. You can’t control the actions of others. Plain and simple fact right there. People are going to hurt your feelings. People might take advantage of you. Those are the cards drawn to you every single day. How you react with your head to each situation reflects onto your heart. You can’t control the world, but you can control how you react to the world. It takes great courage to stand up for yourself. It takes strength and endurance to keep on moving. You fight against yourself. Your freedom to decide is dangerous because it not only influences you, but every battle you face with others.
You also have to remember that everyone else is in combat with themselves as well. Not only that, they are in battles with others you may not know about. We are all at war all the time.
Yeah it sucks, but it’s a chance to reflect.
Tears are words that need to be written. – Paulo Coelho
You and I both shed tears when dealing with conflict, even if we don’t show it. Strong emotions stir up inside all of us in the midst of combat. It’s up to you what you decide to do with those emotions. Writing is a great way to deal with them in a healthy way. It allows you to see yourself and document your past in the future. Not only to help you, but everyone else too.
This post was a response to a writing prompt from the Desk writing community.