When we lean, we are unstable.
I am starting to realize how extremely fortunate I am. The fact that I have a full time job, benefits, an education, a good car and an extremely flexible land lord are the list of the so called “American Dream” necessities. When it comes to my family and friends, I find myself extremely spoiled. The love me so much. They help me when I feel stressed or in a tight bind. My parents have always been a steady crutch in tough scenarios for me. That doesn’t mean I didn’t work hard for what I have gained, but it makes me think about those crutches.
What if the crutches that kept you on your current path weren’t there?
I tend to be preaching things about struggle and perseverance and how they help us succeed in the future, but I sometimes feel like if those crutches were gone I might not be where I am. I would have fallen from the instability of those crutches. Of course we can all think about what “could be,” but that doesn’t really do us any good because it didn’t happen.
Despite the past, move forward.
When it comes having a sense of security we have to look around and see people or things we may be taking for granted. Maybe we use others more than we should. Maybe “use” isn’t the correct term. Maybe we rely on others too much to the point where it can be perceived as using them. If we ever feel like we “need” someone to move forward and reach our goals, then maybe we need to learn how to reach our goals on our own.
Not everyone is focused on you all the time. We need to learn to reach our goals on our own sometimes.
If we end up hoping that our friends will be there for us to make this happen or that it will all just take care of itself, then we have to start taking action ourselves. It is selfish to think that others will take care of us when it comes down to the wire or even every day. We have to learn expect ourselves to give without getting anything in return. That’s the point of giving really. Just to be kind and care for others. The act itself is rewarding on its own.
Who do you lean on too much to reach your goals? How can you make it up to them?
