You can’t go forward thinking you don’t deserve something better.
How we view ourselves in a really big deal. Quite honestly, it can be a huge deal breaker on whether or not we will be able to do the things we dream to do. It doesn’t only effect our goals, it effects our relationships.
It is vital that we feel secure with ourselves. It opens so many doors in our life.
It’s not that things don’t happen because of other factors, but insecurity is something that we all struggle with and has a huge influence on the choices we make. If we see ourselves as weak and unable that’s what we will be, but if we see ourselves as strong, confident and willing then it’s a whole new ball game.
When I see people take that transition from shy and unsure to outgoing and positive it gets me so excited. It’s not going to happen overnight. Most things never do. I know this from personal experience.
When I was in middle school and high school I was a pretty shy kid. I had this great sense of anxiety of what others thought of me. At the time I was an overweight child. I wasn’t too heavy, but enough for it to make me feel like I was an easy target for joke time.
Once I turned 15 I decided to make a change. I fell in love with the idea that I could change myself if I wanted to. I always thought that the way things were would always be, but then something just clicked for me. I wanted to make a change to better myself. I told myself I could lose weight and I could reach my daily goals of running and weight training. I literally became obsessed with it at times. I was reading all about health, nutrition, proper exercise and creating new friendships at the gym and at school.
It was interesting how I found common ground with others finally. I found something else besides video games to talk about. I fell in love with talking to others about goals we have to be better people and live a healthier lifestyle. Things that truly change our lives. Sure, I love video games, but we all need to take care of our health. That is something that is vital.
When I was 15 years old I weighed 225 pounds. In just about one year I went from 225 to 160 pounds. I am just shy of 6 feet tall to help you with perspective a bit. It was one of the greatest things feelings in my life when I saw how much I lost. My confidence went through the roof and I became a social butterfly.
I do want to say this though.
Our appearance should not be allowed to govern how we feel about ourselves.
As I grew older I began to see such amazing and diverse people portray such great enthusiasm and confidence in themselves. I began to wonder why? My young naive spirit became rapidly curious as always. I just wanted an answer right then and there.
Over time I realized that our passions drive our confidence. When we truly love something all the walls are destroyed and we are filled with great joy.
It wasn’t the fact that I lost weight and looked aesthetically better. It was the fact that I was on fire for something new. I loved health and wellness. I still do to this day. I love understanding what is in food and how it benefits me. I love seeing others reach amazing goals in strength and distance. It’s pretty darn cool.
So don’t view yourself physically, view yourself spiritually. Find that fire inside your heart and let it guide you to where you need to be.
